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From: Leslie (
Subject: Re: My husband non vegetarian...
Date: July 26, 2004 at 8:00 pm PST

In Reply to: My husband non vegetarian... posted by Michele on July 18, 2004 at 10:09 am:

I SOOO understand. My husband is also a meat-eater, but at least he won't eat veal. And although he is soo picky about food, practically no vegetables -- except carrots, corn, radishes, and luckily for me some greens like spinach, chard -- he will eat some of what he calls "my" food -- soups, (I can hide all kinds of stuff he normally wouldn't eat in soups) now he loves hummus, veggie lasagne and spaghetti, even some of the packaged things like Gardenburger meatloaf and once in a while a veggie burger. But I hate it when he orders meat, I think he's being very sensitive when he's with me though because he never orders anything except fish or once in a while chicken in a taco, never ever steak. So I thank him for his sensitivity but it still baffles me how he can know about the awful things done to animals and eat meat, I guess that's just personal awareness that I have chosen to act on and he hasn't.

Main thing is, don't hound him, it is a real wedge in your relationship. Make some really good veggie food, I find Bryanna Clark Grogan's cookbooks (just got back from an awesome cooking vacation at her place in Denman Island) are the best, many many good recipes that your husband might like. Start with obvious things he already likes -- soups, maybe beans, grains, nothing "weird" like seitan -- actually I don't personally care for seitan but I love tofu and have found two or three ways to serve it to my husband that he will actually eat. Little by little you may find that if the food is delish, and Bryanna's recipes are delish, he might eat more of that and less meat, it just takes a long time and no nagging.

The veal thing would be tough to deal with, I have to say that I personally would make an ultimatum on that one -- if I'm with you, you don't order it, period, I would find it very offensive and would refuse to eat with him. Sorry to say, that's just me and in my case my husband is so accommodating he would acquiesce to that. He would do just about anything to please me, except maybe go vegan!

I have to say I occasionally cook fish for him also, like once a month or less, I try mostly to cook things that we both can enjoy and since he travels extensively he eats in restaurants. I don't cook any other kind of meat and will not allow him to bring it into the house, except for frozen dinners that he eats occasionally and microwaves. Our Thanksgivings are vegan.

You just have to find your middle ground, and both of you have to give a little to make it work.

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