When we maintain grievances against others we are actually attacking them. When we attack others we feel bad about ourselves at a deep unconscious level, even if we feel justified in our grievances and attack. Our feeling bad about ourselves......

If we continually procrastinate and sabotage ourselves to the point of not getting the lives we want, we need to re-program our subconscious minds because it is not our being a victim of bad luck or some more concrete scapegoat......